Hay Debbie, I can relate to so much of this. Thank you for sharing your experience, and wishing you healing and recovery in your family. I think these blogs are more educational than a generic medical article about BPD. I scream out (or maybe I don't) and no one knows what the heck I'm talking about. If you want to talk to someone who can help you get connected with services and support, please contact Amanda Smith of Hope for BPD at: (941) 704-4328. These are a few of the words that have been used to describe individuals suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder. Distancing can also trigger all kinds of abandonment and trust issues for the "BPD" partner (as described in #4). I know it always comes out wrong. I wish I knew if there was some real possibility to salvage our relationship or even that we will talk again. I'd be honored if you shared it with your DBT Group and therapist (and your family!). and "WE" your partners love you, even if today, this week, this month, this year, you hate "US"! Thank you. The content of this website is not a substitute for independent professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. She often tears into me at the slightest provocation (one night a couple of weeks ago, for example, she said she needed some time alone, and locked herself in our bedroom. before you all jump on me telling me i'm in denial don't want to get help etc i've done nothing but GET HELP for years. Thanks again. And explains how the "non-BPD" can support and understand those who are suffering from the disorder. While this is the basic description for BPD, the complexity of this disorder is extreme. Don't give up on YOU. Then I was abandoned againwe all know about that. Great job!!! People with BPD have extreme mood swings, unstable relationships and trouble controlling their emotions. I'd at least come to an understanding of what it is, how it works, what it does before she did. Yesterday, I had to say goodbye to a dear friend of mine, because I became emotional and said things I never should have. Hi there, I am now in my 2nd month of treatment for BPD, and ,sadly, had all nine of the symptoms. I made it though, and I now know that I have so much to offer to my future clients because of my own experience with mental illnesses. This seems to be at the crux of NPD, the refusal to show vulnerability. Even in this letter, she puts me on a pedestal and subsequently knocks me off it. While these cries for help should be taken seriously, we understand that you may experience burn out from worrying about us and the repeated behavior. , There are still some professionals who are not up to speed with the treatments that can effectively help those with BPD. Be somewhere. So here I sit feeling sorry for my self and a whole lot lost. We may request cookies to be set on your device. BUT I AM EXHAUSTED. I need frequent reminders of this, because if I dont it feels like I will lose faith in humanity completely, and that will shatter every belief I have ever held dear. The following cookies are also needed - You can choose if you want to allow them: You can read about our cookies and privacy settings in detail on our Privacy Policy Page. If you have decided to tap into your strength and stand by your loved one with BPD, you probably need support too. I've learned how to focus on the important things and how to handle my emotions. But I know this is fantasy. Thanks for commenting. Which has had a negative impact in my own life and relationships. Hope can be returned. I know it might seem I am heartless, but I have to put my own husband and my 5 children first. I truly hope you have connected with resources to support you and have had a chance to learn more about DBT! Our brains literally disconnect, and our thoughts go somewhere else, as our brains are trying to protect us from additional emotional trauma. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a mental health condition defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (the bedrock clinical manual of the mental health field). I thought we would be okay, but then something I did angered her. You know what, I wouldn't have been able to write it 6 years ago. Debbie now teaches the DBT skills that helped change her life over at. As a result, people with BPD frequently experience emotional invalidation that is, others react to their emotions as if those emotions are not valid or reasonable. I don't think I saw mention of co-occuring illnesses in this (but I may have missed it because I have a "reading disorder"not dyslexia, comphrehension. clearly point to BPD. A normal life can be had. You can now share your poetry (or poetry you love) by using the hashtag #MightyPoets. I don't see what that has to do with anything. I dont know how to start this little note of mineSigh.. Other have said it, but I need to add my voice Thank you for writing this. You might feel like you're being held hostage . Those 9 criteria and what this letter describes is sadly what i think it is like for someone to live with me. You are not the cause of our suffering. I can tell you, from personal experience, that working on this illness through DBT is worth the fight. My email is kristenwoods81@aol.con. Again this is NOT your fault. If you have borderline personality disorder (BPD), you might have experience with being called "obsessive.". Thankyou, I can only imagine the courage it must have taken for you to write this for us! All of this is new to me, just as it is with so many others, and as much as I would love the help of regular therapy I know that I have to help myself - but it is HARD. We are ordinary people who care for someone with BPD. I guess I'm not doing that well enough. Your letter touches on a subject that my husband and I are taking to my therapist just this week. That is certainly not easy. This is the most dreaded Dx to come across according to my colleaguesif it was so bad, why would it be my problem? Maybe there is hope or support out there but i can't figure out how to know who deserves it and who doesnt and if i try think about it i just panic and get nowhere, make things worse, so i was wondering what your thoughts are as this is obviously a subject you have much experience with. I tried to cheer her up and I thought we ended the evening on amiable terms. For example, a male with BPD may engage in frequent binge drinking of. Something wasnt right, but you still lay down next to me every night. We are highly emotionally sensitive and have extreme difficulty regulating/modulating our emotions. You can find even more stories on our Home page. Maybe we should bandage our heads and hearts. But you say it is possible to recover to heal have hope and a normal life. What loved ones may not realize though . And to help others like you do! 50 reviews of McLean Hospital "You know what? I pray every night for God to help meI would love some direction and support Thank You. Learn DBT Skills Online at EmotionallySensitive.com These are the skills that helped this blogs author overcome BPD! Everyday I sit with teenage girls in crisis, and oftentimes I think they struggling to find the words you expressed so eloquently in your letter. I'm constantly dropping things I'm doing or putting myself in awkward situations so I can be there. I would be very pleased to share it with you. I think about dying every single day. I accept the consequences of my actions and how they have affected you, I didnt realize then how much it affected me too. I am a non that just recently gave up after 4 years of chaos. My father had the ability, life experience, and the perspective needed to know this blame was unfounded. Refresh. My significant other felt the same way as yours that therapy was a waste of time and money, until I finally showed progress and began getting better through DBT. Don't write her off. If you are serious about hurting yourself, I need to ask you to please get medical attention right away. It is inspiring and a ray of light to those of us who have a loved one with BPD to remind us that is just an aspect that can be overcommed to let us live in full the beauty of life. Borderlines do not know how to cope with intimacy - it leaves them feeling engulfed. Not someone with questionable actions in their past. I hope that my ex gets better. A lover, a friend, a parent or sibling, and a coworker all have the privilege of having a frame of reference to place the borderline in. UPDATE: A video version of this letter, complete with narration and text, is now available for viewing and sharing by clicking HERE. Unfortunately, a few years later, the societal stigma against mental illness reared its ugly head. Mahari, a Canadian woman and Life Coach now 52 years old, who recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago writes an open letter to all who have been, as she was at the age of 19, diagnosed with BPD. I love her but ive been told coz of bpd I have an inability to love, is that true, that I just dilude myself that she was the one? I have only receintly learned of BDP when searching for answers to why my relationship was not able to progress. I'm so proud of him that he agreed very graciously to attend and learn these skills. How I did not walk out at that moment is beyond me. Thank you for sharing especially during your own struggles. Leaving university during the recession, where there were no jobs in my chosen field, was a pretty anxious time. I have the unique ability to "throw people off" my scent when they get close to calling me out on stuffThe only reason why I am here is because my oldest told me tonight that he knows that I am "unwell" and expressed himself honestly about those characteristics in my behavior that are destroying him emotionally to be fair, I am dealing with a lot of unnormal stuff, but am really unclear as to where it all ends and I begin I really have no idea, and I am miserable. What the person with borderline personality disorder will do is they will make the five calls and immediately attempt a sixth." . My mother has informed herself about bpd, so that she can give me the support I need in a way that I can accept it. Debbiethank you, for having the courage to write and advise about BPD, that I knew nothing of until my daughter of 27 was diagnosed 7 months ago. Maybe its the first time you fell in love, or the worst argument you have ever had with someone you love. Click on the different category headings to find out more. Sometimes we take a preemptive strike by disowning people before they can reject or abandon us. Instead, despite how I dread to say this, I am an outlet for her fears, insecurities and blame. I am 26 years old, I live in Wichita, KS, and I live with my father because I cannot live alone. This is coming from the mouth of the same guy who proposed to me last year. When I was scared, I ran away and hid. On the other side of the coin, we may have outburst of anger that can be scary. I have found some wonderful resources but they are all for the person affected by the BDP subhuman (heh). I know people with BPD who were never abused or traumatized, so they can't really say BPD is actually a type of PTSD/trauma-based disorder either. I've been blamed by doctors who put me on these meds that I'm on too manyand the last one (after I discussed BPD he's a complete idiot and asked *me* what the therapy "DBT" was called) said to me, "You have a serious personality problem", in response to me answering how I'd been doing. Most of my family doesnt believe in my diagnosis, and any friend I ever made has left because of the brief periods of time when I couldnt control my emotions. One moment you might feel as though you love. Thank you so much. Thank you. After finally being diagnosed with BPD after hospital stays, hurting multiple people, trying med after med and more. What you have written here is one of the most accurate and personable depictions of BPD, it gives way to understanding and hope. That evening I spoke to a LCSW who was able to confirm that all her actions (plus a prior divorce, SI, estrangement from her children, abusive father and ex-boyfriends, etc.) I am very excited for your ongoing healing! We are not mental health professionals nor clinicians. Last but not least, thank you for the wonderful open letter. This is an open letter to anyone willing and/or needing to listen. I just wish my husband would do the same; I need his support more than I need my mothers. I feel helpless, powerless to get my feelings accross. I was diagnosed with BPD.. I suspect that if she were to sit across from a psychologist she would be able to fool them, but I am about to test that. There were some days I was too depressed to go to school or to study, and there were many times I thought "how can I help others if I'm such a mess?" Love, Andrea, You are so welcome, Heather. Life is such a struggle. A normal life can be had. I had alter egos and they were the fun ones but I was not me anymore. My friend is having a sense of impending doom. Her idea of help is everyone doing what she wants, on her schedule. Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a long-term pattern of "abnormal behavior" that is characterized by an unstable sense of self, emotions, and relationships with other people. It can be hard to witness someone's pain, and one of the pitfalls for therapists is to lose faith in the person going through the therapy, particularly when building up one's own DBT skills. I have to agree with DBTChick. Someone with BPD might feel fine one second and then really angry or upset the next. She cant acknowledge there is a problem, much less attend therapy or consider consulting a therapist. I was 16. The stigma. Borderline Personality Disorder: Is there hope? Currently, my BPD symptoms are worsening. Try to deny it. This blog was extremely helpful for me, and sincerely appreciate it. I am having to learn what triggers, when she splits I have currently moved out of my home where she and her boyfriend live, as she had a major melt a month ago. When I was told what it was, I went home and researched everything I could about it. I can tell you, from personal experience, that working on this illness through DBT is worth the fight. Ive not recovered fully from this. I haven't spoken to him for a week., and he hasn't contacted me. Impulsive behavior is a primary symptom of BPD. If you've ever read anything about BPD, you've probably heard of people who are "abusive . People will tell you that whatever you did was your fault, and you will believe it, but they dont and cant understand how hard you fought to keep control. Punishment And Revenge. My belief in it is fading. My heart breaks each time. Thank you so much for writing this, I am putting it everywhere I can. Thank you for the hope you have given us.and putting it in terms we can understand. Thank you for your heartfelt comment in response to my letter. My will. Check to enable permanent hiding of message bar and refuse all cookies if you do not opt in. I put my family through hell for years. I really appreciate all of the kind, encouraging words you've offered here. Its difficult, after all, to relate to others properly when you dont have a solid understanding of yourself and who you are, apart from everyone else around you. , I am so glad that this letter has helped you find some more compassion and understanding for your daughter. Unfortunately, many kids of BPD's become BPD themselves because they learn the thought patterns, behaviors, and unstable feelings as a normal way to be. Click to enable/disable _gat_* - Google Analytics Cookie. You are likely to see this behavior from someone with BPD and unlikely to see it from someone with NPD. If there is a problem with our website, please contact us here, 2023 Sanctuary Support Group | Designed by, Debbie Corso had BPD and has recovered. My wife was diagnosed with BPD a number of years ago and it's been more of a battle for her than for me. 2022 Mighty Proud Media, Inc. All Rights Reserved. You are not the cause of our suffering. I just want to Scream at the both of them saying how the hell can you both do this!!!!???? Use non-judgmental words to describe our behaviours. An Open Letter From those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, You may be frustrated, feeling helpless, and ready to give up. Thank you once again. This post is just to give you an idea of the typical suffering and thoughts those of us with BPD have. I'm looking forward to reading more of your blog. I wish I knew more about BPD before my wife left..I miss herwish I could have done more. Its like every step I had ever taken to better myself since my diagnosis, just never happened. Debbie, Hi Damask thank you so much for taking the time to write such a beautiful comment. She is restarting DBT group in a few weeks. My boss surely think I'm a nutcase. Dear *My Name*, I wanted to write you and tell you that I'm sorry I couldn't (or didn't) make it work with you. I truly love her, but this is getting old real fast. The roots of abuse in BPD, particularly in intimate significant other relationships with Non-Borderlines have their genesis in the borderline's re-living of this deep intra-psychic pain. You may find that difficult to believe, since we may lash out at you, switch from being loving and kind to non-trusting and cruel on a dime, and we may even straight up blame you. I may have recently ruined a great bond I had built with a great man. This is known as PTSD, and it happens to a lot of us, too.). We use cookies to let us know when you visit our websites, how you interact with us, to enrich your user experience, and to customize your relationship with our website. September 14, 2018, 3:53 PM. Thank you for reading this. Shrug. Write as much as you'd like, pour out your heart and soul and tell him how hurt you are and how much you didn't deserve such horrific treatment. My wife got me a book back in 2004 called Walking On Egg Shells that has helped me so very much. I have strong reasons to beleive my exfiance has BPD. Impulsive, risky behaviour. Your lack of emotional control leads you to damage your relationships, leading people to walk away from it, which exacerbates the abandonment issues that are a part of your disorder. It wasn't untill this year, despite 15 years of being labelled, i was able to get that changed. Debbie, Kelly, thank you so much for letting me know! There is a lot of misconception out there about BPD. Initially I thought we just fell out of love and she was unable to deal with that reality (like maybe she needed a larger reason like alcoholism or abuse rather than just drifting apart). Tell us how mental illness has affected your life. I thank you for writing this. In the past when she gets to busy she ends up in the hospital. This is called dissociation. Hope you are well! They tried me on several meds and hospitalized me when I started burning myself (unknown why) never did that before.but I remember being so angry and did not know why or when it would end. I think you are the first Norwegian to tell me about her BPD blog. I will try and find your blog, Lots of love Kat. If you had told me 10 yrs ago I would be happily married and eventually become a mother I would have given you the finger and told you to shut the F up. You *can* overcome this disorder! 1. Yes, it's good to have a job so that i'm out of the house and not laying in bed all day. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time and in severe cases on the border between reality and psychosis. After a few weeks there she came down with a respiratory illness and asked to come back home. These episodes can get farther and fewer between, and we can experience long periods of stability and regulation of our emotions. Brea, it can be really difficult when financials are suffering, but there are many people out there self-teaching the skills until such a time that they can afford to go to groups or individual DBT. . This comment has been removed by a blog administrator. I hope somewhere in her heart she truly KNOWS the love I have for her and though I may never be able to see it returned to me, I everyday press on in my efforts to support her and encourage positive change. Of course all of this makes me wonder..maybe i'm just lazy or _____ whatever.and then some family members think I *want* to be depressed or anxious or whatever (they think the origin was my mother's death, 20 yrs ago, but I was depressed before that and have told them). Can't take their word for anything. I asked myself, how can someone with four beautiful children and a stunning wife feel this way? Win a copy of my new book, Stronger Than BPD! Refresh the page, check Medium 's. Copyright 2023 NAMI. The emotion can easily become unbearable, which is when the BPD takes control. My intention was to describe the difficulty while remaining brief. BPD is characterized by rapidly fluctuating moods, an unstable sense of self, impulsiveness, and a lot of fear. I wanted to throw in the towel and give up on life. Note that blocking some types of cookies may impact your experience on our websites and the services we are able to offer. It has resulted in many failed friendships and rejections, one failed relationship, and has damaged my current one (why he has stayed, I don't really know). An open letter from those with BPD Jul 15, 2019 An Open Letter to People who do Not have Borderline Personality Disorder from Those of Us who Do Click here to watch the Video Transcript: Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder, People started telling me that I was using my diagnosis as an excuse for my bad behavior. She blames our divorce completely on me, taking no responsibility at all. This situation has been devastating because we were planning to get married and I wanted nothing more than that but her unwillingness to even realize that there could be something and act is what made me left, also because I was already showing signs of burn out such as anxiety, insomnia and depression that led me to my own therapy. Symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) at work can vary, including the different ways that these symptoms can affect your job performance and ability to "fit in" with your coworkers. Appointments 866.588.2264. It can easily end up feeling hopeless and you feel helpless. "Snap out of it". Personal trainer. over the years I couldn't figure out why I did the thjngs I did and people dealing with my behaviors would always resort to calling me crazy. I know that there are some less-than-helpful sites for Nons, and there are some Nons with some serious issues of their own. We can learn how to stop sabotaging our lives and circumstancesand we can learn to behave in ways that are less hurtful and frightening to you. She struggles with accepting herself and most of all loving herself which in turn hinders her from being healthy both mentally and physically. He left me nearly 4 weeks ago.It's over now. You've been peeking in our windows. We can learn grounding exercises and apply our skills to help during these episodes, and they may become less frequent as we get better. I also see your side and know you must have been through alot with her and you have to protect yourself and your family. SANE Helpline. Not easy.When she does decide to get help, and i hope she does. ive been through the same, she knows she has it but cant have anyone know, she cant have people think shes not perfect and happy. About 1.7% of American adults have BPD in any given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Dear Friends, Family Members, Lovers, Ex-lovers, Coworkers, Children, and others of those of us with Borderline Personality Disorder. Not doing anything to make it happenjust wondering why it hasn't. 7. My wife has BPD, and she sent me a link to this article so I could understand it better. I can only hope with every breath in my body that she can be 'cured' and live a normal and happy life. Somewhere between 1.6% and 5.9% of adults in the US have BPD, a personality disorder that's characterized by difficulty regulating emotion. I'm now 54. But right now, she would react in a completely negative way to even the suggestion that she needs help. Privacy I can't believe they still employ me (which reminds me I'm am Thee master of self-sabatoge)Every day I am paranoid, anxious, overwhelmed. It's all chaos. I want to know that humanity can be beautiful. I haven't heard from her privately for weeks since. Open Letter. It felt as though my very real issues were being labelled as some sort of 'mood swing'. This is an extreemly complicated disorder. You can see glimpses and more and more of who that person really is over time, if you dont give up. where you can take online Dialectical Behavior Therapy Classes from anywhere in the world. But working also adds more stressors to an already stressed out life. I want to point out that you have a lot of clarity and insight into what's been happening for you and your desired boundaries around your family. Furthermore, symptoms of BPD often manifest themselves as true emotional (and often times physical) abuse toward the children of those who suffer from the disorder. Armon, what a kind, loving husband you are. Perhaps he still loves me and he still wants to try (I think he's been having a breakdown anyway, due to his father being very ill and the chance he'll be homeless when his dad dies). I am very glad that your husband is open to supporting you and hope that the letter helped. i was wondering if you could answer something for me though. I know all the theory now. I wish you strength and hope as you do this work, and please always remember to also take care of YOU. It was a touch and go for 3 days. The hardest thing about tonight's episode is that I don't know how long it will take for her to recover. The Perks of Being a Borderline Resilient, Got BPD? It's bloody hard work to change your whole life and how you live it. Harder than bringing up 4 kids and being away from them for long periods. Top Picks for BPD (and other) Books [Facebook Live Stream], Recent Facebook Live: Importance of Self-Care and Emotional Sensitivity (BPD), Fear of Real or Imagined Abandonment & BPD, Facts, Assumptions, and Missing Pieces in Seth Meyers, Psy.D.s Price of Loving SomeoneBorderline, The Sadness Spiral (BPD and Afraid to Feel), Trauma Triggers: Tips for Handling Visits From Estranged Family Members (BPD), 3 Ways To Handle Feelings Of Abandonment When A Loved One Travels, Real life vs. Social Media: Who are you really? What stands out for me is HOPE! Madeline Richardson. Thank you so much for your comment. Yeah, I love hating my life and feeling like I've waste most of it and being almost 40 and feeling like a teenager. Punishment and revenge are central to the manifestation of what Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is and means when it comes to relationships. At times I've felt as if, emotionally, I were being held hostage. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. it gives me so much understanding and hope for my relationship. We were always extremely close, until she got involved in a highly stressful abusive relationship. She told me about the family events she's been dealing with lately and we talked a bit through some of those, as well as a source of panic she doesn't seem ready to talk about.. In the interest of our child, I have put him into therapy. I am almost 50 and hate myself for having any of this. This is known as PTSD, and it happens to a lot of us, too.). My heart breaks every day for them. We're currently in the middle of another episode as I write this. Debbie, Hi Anne thank you for commenting. He said many times that he wanted to show me love and treat me right but he thinks that his selfishness and pride are preventing him to do so. I was petrified of losing you; the intensity of my emotions, the world and the endless possibilities absolutely petrified me. Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT. I don't know if I should or should not point out that she has an illness and thus a proclivity to feeling the way she does, without it being my fault. Thankyou, once again, for putting your heart and soul open for us to share.xx. I want you to know that despite the poor choices, the exhaustion and what you've seen as laziness, I have loved you through it. Debbie, Thank you so much for commenting. We were married for 12 years and the relationship was defined by me reassuring her that she was good enough, while she would constantly go through massive unpredictable mood swings. There are ups and downs for everyone, mentally healthy or not. Sometimes the best thing to do, if you can muster up the strength in all of your frustration and hurt, is to grab us, hug us, and tell us that you love us, care, and are not leaving. I walked away so she wouldnt have to deal with that; because no one should have to. It's a commitment, but I fully intend to be there for her and listen and work through it when she's ready. A certain song, sound, smell, or words can quickly fire off neurological connections that bring us back to a place where we didnt feel safe, and we might respond in the now with a similar reaction (think of military persons who fight in combat a simple backfiring of a car can send them into flashbacks. And a couple days ago I put my guitar away and said, Im done.. People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) struggle to understand how wives, husbands, friends, and other family members experience their intense reactions, mood swings, and risky behavior. 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